5 Things Every Glass Child Must Know
Growing up as a glass child means stepping into a unique role, often silently and invisibly. While love fills the home, attention frequently shifts toward a sibling with disabilities, leaving the glass child feeling like a quiet observer of their own story. Serious efforts must be made to support children in this state of affairs.
One such effort includes reading the ABC Law Centers’s guide for siblings of a child with a disability, a powerful resource that illuminates often-ignored perspectives. This post sheds light on what every glass child needs to hear: truths that validate, empower, and equip them for the journey ahead. It offers clarity, not just comfort, and names the experiences many siblings keep buried. Read on.
1. Your Emotions Deserve Space
Glass children often feel pressure to stay quiet or appear strong. They hide pain, guilt, or resentment to avoid adding to the household's emotional load. But those feelings matter. Denying them doesn't make them disappear; it only buries them deeper. Speak about what you feel, cry if needed, laugh without guilt, and express joy without shame. You hold the right to every emotion you experience. Give your heart room to breathe.
2. You Are Not Selfish for Wanting Attention
Desiring your parents’ time and praise doesn't make you selfish, but human. Many glass children believe they must always give way to their sibling'’ needs. That belief chips away at self-worth. Asking for attention or support reflects courage, not greed. You don't steal love by seeking it, but you strengthen your bond with your family when you show up as yourself and ask for what you need.
3. You Hold a Unique Identity
Often, people define glass children through their sibling'’ condition. But your life carries its own story. Your dreams, quirks, and gifts stretch far beyond the shadow of someone else's experience. Step into your identity, try new interests, and embrace hobbies that excite you, and don't exist only to support. You exist to thrive, lead, and leave your mark on the world.
4. You Don't Have to Fix Everything
Glass children often slip into the silent roles of peacekeeper, helper, or rescuer. That pressure builds a false belief that everything depends on them. But you don't serve your family best through burnout. You serve them through presence, not perfection.
Let go of the need to solve every problem, step back when your energy runs low, and rest when you need to. Responsibility should never erase your right to live freely.
5. You Deserve Support Too
Support doesn't only belong to your sibling, but you also deserve connection, care, and guidance. Talk to someone, a mentor, a friend, or a counselor, and join support groups for siblings. Moreover, share your truth with people who get it because you don't have to carry the weight alone.
Seeking support doesn't signal weakness, and it shows wisdom. You honor yourself when seeking help or letting someone hold space for your experience.
Every glass child carries quiet strength, but strength shouldn't cost you your voice, joy, or sense of self. You deserve to stand in full view, not behind the curtain of someone else’s story.
